Sometimes growing in Christ involves adding things to our lives. Other times, it involves letting go of things:
"Letting go in order to grow can be scary. It requires change, which demands a certain degree of faith and hope. That's why our picture of God must heal, at least a little, before we can embark on greater growth.
"The writer of Hebrews reminds us that we can only let go and run the race of life well when we keep our eyes on Jesus. Abiding and surrender... continue to be important as we practice the discipline of letting go.
"There are three things we must learn to let go if we want greater healing and maturity in our lives -- we must let go of: unrealistic expectations, negative emotions, and lies." (Leslie Vernick, The Emotionally Destructive Relationship, as quoted in Setting Boundaries for Your Adult Children: Six Steps to Hope and Healing for Struggling Parents, written by Allison Bottke, pp. 146-147).